I want to start this post by saying that AJ and Hugh are the light of my life. They have the purest little hearts and the kindest souls. I know that because I’m raising them. I see them every day. And, yes, we have challenges. Yes, we have misunderstandings. And every day with them, however challenging, is a blessing, but days like yesterday make it all so much better.
I know that things are just as difficult for them as they are for me, especially because they’re too young to understand some things, so, even though ignorance for them really is bliss, it doesn’t make it any easier than it is.
I started reading several books that Gabby, our behavioral therapist, recommended and have been following these simple methods, and monitoring AJ’s and Hugh’s reactions, and I have to say there hadn’t been any major improvements or worsenings. Until yesterday.
AJ has this fixation on watches. He can stare at the hands of a watch for hours, it’s what amuses him, it’s what calms him down, I can’t understand it, but I’m complying if that’s what he wants. When we were visiting my parents yesterday, he noticed his uncle’s watch, a Stuhrling, and probably took a liking to it, so his uncle, my brother, basically had no choice but to give it to him.
AJ was so happy, I could tell. A mother can always tell, even though he doesn’t really express his emotions in the traditional way. Over the years I learned to read him. But yesterday was a breakthrough. For the first time ever he initiated physical touch. He gave his uncle something of an awkward hug, but it was the most endearing thing I’d ever seen. I got teary, of course. We all got teary. I felt like all those hours of hard work had really paid off.
Hugh, on the other hand, is more unpredictable. I’m guessing it’s because he’s younger, but Gabby, told me to expect that Hugh would be more impulsive. He’s been more prone to tantrums, unlike when AJ was at his age. But I’m happy to say that therapy has been very helpful for both of them, and for me, of course. I’m hoping that over time I’ll have another breakthrough with Hugh as well, even though I know it won’t be easy.
Until next time, Jen. Xx